For those of you who were at one point of time in your life were brokenhearted, read on. While I am not promising you anything good about this article, I won’t promise you anything bad either. The worst thing that could happen to you is at the end, you’ll realize that you have just wasted five minutes of your time reading this. But being a good person that you are, I’m sure you can forgive me for that!

And talking about forgiveness, well, how many of you have not forgiven the last person that broke your heart? Don’t be shy, raise you hand! 1, 2, 3,4,….hmmmmnn, so many huh. Welcome to the club! Actually, that’s where the problem lies! The fact is if you never learn to forgive, then you will never ever forget. And if you never forget the bad things that had happened to you, chances are you’re one of those who are too afraid to fall in love again. Not a good idea! The best thing that you can do is to let go and learn from it and then move on, conquer your fears and don’t dwell in your past. It’s just not worth it! Don’t blame yourself for what happened; it’s not all your fault. It takes two to tango. The most important thing is to free your self of all these miseries. Just let yourself fall in love again because it is the most wonderful feeling that you can experience in whatever circumstances. Whether it is the right love at the wrong time for the right person or the wrong love at the right time for the wrong person, or whatever! Depriving yourself of that feeling is one of the cruelest thing that you can do.

You should not also feel sorry for the time spent and lost. When one relationship fails, the general perception of most people is that they just wasted their time, especially if they spent so many years together. And they regret it. This is not always the case. Let’s say you have a relationship for five years and then you broke up. Ask yourself, have you been happy during the whole time?If your answer is yes, then it’s not! You keep your relationship going for so long because you are happy. And if you are happy the whole time, how can you say it’s a waste? Relationships are made and broken everyday around us and there is nothing we can do about….it’s a fact of life that we have to live with. There are just things in this world that are not meant to be. But as long as you’re happy with your relationship, it’s definitely not a waste irrespective of the ending. No regrets whatsoever!

But I’ll tell you an example of what a waste is. You have a relationship for say five years, and every other day you have a black eye either on the left or right; you either have a broken nose or a swelling upper or lower lip; your beautiful shiny white front teeth start falling one by one! All these for telling him that you often see him with different girls. But despite of it all, you still stick with him hoping that it could still work. Unfortunately, it did not and you eventually broke up. That’s a waste!

Now, look back at your past relationship and then come to terms with yourself. It may help you see things in a different perspective that can release yourself from the chain of self-induced suffering. Let all your fears go, set yourself free, and don’t be afraid to fall in love again.  Remember that there is a perfect someone for every person. You may not hit the jackpot the first or second time but your time will surely come. But if you do not let yourself to move on and fall in love again, how can you find your perfect one? Next time, just be wise enough to realize when to hold on to or to let go of a relationship.

Actually, it’s pretty simple, just remember these : happy times – not a waste; black eye or falling front teeth – definitely a waste!