My friends and I had a very lively talk about this last night. It's actually a very interesting conversation-slash-debate-slash-argument about love and sex. Since we are composed of two girls and a guy, the girl's side and the boy's side of the issue is well represented. Personally, and since I am a girl, premarital sex is a no-no. Of course, my guy friend contradicts my statement. We discussed what real love means, what's the role of sex in the relationship, WHEN should you engage in sex, WHO to do it with and even up to my being boyish and all (I don't know why the topic stray to my choice of clothes).

I don't really approve of premarital sex because I am a devout Catholic. Not that I don't have fantasies about it (I am still human). But I think it's too risky to engage in. There are so many things at stake, more on the girl's side than the boys'. Not just because if ever something unplanned happen, it's the girl who becomes pregnant, and the guy can just simply walk away. I'm not saying that all guys are that irresponsible, there are some who are willing to carry the burden. But if the couple is too young to carry that heavy responsibility, the burden is somehow transferred to the parents.

"If you love me, why can't we just do it"

"I love you that's why I respect you"

My generation of boys and girls are accepting premarital sex as a normal thing to do. If you love your bf/gf, sex is a way of showing it.

My argument is that there are other ways of showing love aside from sex.

Sex is not always the answer to the guy's insistence that, "If you really love, you'll make love to me".

I repeat, sex is NOT the only expression of love.

My guy friend insisted that the couple can always use 'protection'.

I know. I listened well to my health science teacher, thank you very much.

But 'protections' are not always fool-proofed. Something, anything might and could go wrong. The only logical solution is to abstain from doing it.

"Do you expect me to be with you but I'm doing IT with someone else?"

This is the problem with guys (a guy said that to me, no offense to other guys). And also the reason why some girls, even if they don't really want to do it, just give in. They are afraid that their bf will look for someone else. Well, that's b***s***. If they can't keep their hands to themselves, then the girl is better off with someone who is not making sex the top priority in the relationship.

Another point of contention in our argument is the guys habit of checking out every woman they see with big boobs and short skirts (again, this is merely a generalization. I am not saying that ALL guys behave this way. It's just MOST do.)

I probably won't understand why they did but I guess it's the same with girls staring at handsome guys. Boys are indeed boys and girls and indeed girls.

Some do it, some don't. It's a matter of knowing yourself, thinking hard if it's really what you want, and choosing the best option. I'm not condemning those who engaged in sex, it's their decision. Just like what my cousin said, we all have our own opinions about the matter. I am merely stating my own opinion about sex and why it's not supposed to be the basis of love.

When it comes to love. I am also an amateur in that aspect. I'll give my views about it when I experience it. Because as they say (though it does not apply to all),

"Experience is the best teacher."